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Courtney Glashow
Understanding the Psychology of Scapegoating in ...

Scapegoating means that you are blaming a person or group for something bad that has happened or for something that someone else has done. Scapegoating typically occurs to protect the image of a person or family. In a family dynamic, a person may be used as the scapegoat to protect a more favored member in the family. While it is common for one person to be used as the scapegoat, it can happen to multiple people.

Scapegoating can occur in different environments, such as work, but it is most prominent in unhealthy family dynamics. In this case, scapegoating then tends to start in childhood when a child is blamed for all of a family’s dysfunction and problems. A scapegoat bears the burden of taking on the mistakes of a family or team. 

When children are assigned this role at a young age, it can wreak havoc on their mental health. A scapegoated child may not believe that they are inherently good, worthy, or lovable. Instead, they hear insults regularly, experience constant bullying, and even abuse and neglect. This leads to a low self-esteem, decreased self-confidence, and negative self-talk. 

Understanding the Psychology of Scapegoating in Families
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Courtney Glashow
How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship

When you are in a healthy relationship, it naturally functions well. Of course, like any couple, you may have disagreements from time-to-time or there may be some hard times, but you band together no matter what. You are able to make major life decisions together, discuss problems once they occur, and genuinely enjoy spending time with one another.

On the other hand, you have toxic relationships. In a toxic relationship, the ‘norm’ is feeling drained and unhappy after spending time with your partner. This should be a major red flag that some things need to change.

You may still love your partner, but the relationship does not seem enjoyable. Maybe minor issues turn into full-blown arguments or you always seem to provoke one another. It may even get so severe that you dread spending time with your partner instead of getting excited to see them, like you were in the past.

Continue reading this blog to see if your relationship is toxic, and some guidance on how to navigate a toxic relationship.

How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship
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Courtney Glashow
Disney’s Encanto: How It Got Intergenerational ...

Disney has a way of exploring heavier life topics that can help children and the 2021 film Encanto is no exception. Movies like Inside Out and Soul also assist children in exploring heavier aspects of life, such as emotions, trauma, consciousness, and even death. Encanto joins the long list of children’s movies that have a deeper message.

Disney’s Encanto offers a multigenerational story about a grandmother and her family who have been endowed with magical gifts. The Madrigal family lives in a hidden village in Colombia. While each family member does their best to live up to their reputation and help others in the community, the facade slowly begins to crumble figuratively and literally in the house that all three generations share.
Not only do people love this movie because of its catchy soundtrack, including the famous song “We don’t talk about Bruno”, but people also love it because of its exploration of generational trauma.

Disney’s Encanto: How It Got Intergenerational Trauma Right
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Courtney Glashow
7 Ways to Let Go of Control Issues

Do you have a hard time going with the flow? Do you have to follow a schedule or routine at all times? Do you try to control other people in your life? If you are dealing with control issues, it is likely that you feel like you must exert power over your life, relationships, and general environment. In some cases, this exertion of power may extend to the life of other people.

Control can simply be defined as exerting influence or power over the environment, actions, and behaviors of yourself or another person. There are many reasons why you may feel like you need to be in control, such as insecurities or fear of the unpredictable. At times, your need for control may become overwhelming and tiring, causing chaos in your career, relationships, and your overall quality of life.

7 Ways to Let Go of Control Issues
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Courtney Glashow
8 Tips for Dealing With A Narcissist

While some people may be quick to throw the word “narcissist” around, it is important to remember that there is a distinction between someone being self-centered and unsympathetic, and someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Many people may have what doctors call narcissistic characteristics, such as feeling entitled or having a strong sense of self-importance. People who have narcissistic personality disorder may be challenging to deal with.

The first step to determine your dynamic with someone who you think is a narcissist is to know the difference between someone with narcissistic tendencies and someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

8 Tips for Dealing With A Narcissist

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How To Feel Less Anxious About Change

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How To Feel Less Anxious About Change

Whether it is positive or negative- change can be hard. We get used to doing the same things everyday and our minds become used to a routine. When this routine is disrupted, we start to feel anxious and sometimes even panic.

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How To Survive The Holidays With Divorced Parents

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How To Survive The Holidays With Divorced Parents

The holidays can be a difficult time for adult children to manage when they have divorced parents. When you are a young adult, you are independent enough to make your own decisions on where and when you want to celebrate with your family. Every family dynamic is different, but there are some common struggles that come up for anyone who has had the experience of jumping between family parties over the holidays.

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How To Handle A Panic Attack

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How To Handle A Panic Attack

If you have ever experienced a panic attack it can feel very scary. the first panic attack that someone experiences is usually unexpected and feels like there is something seriously wrong. usually people end up in the hospital thinking they are experiencing a heart attack. if you do experience something like a panic attack for the first time then it is recommended to see a medical doctor and make sure you are healthy. After you get the all clear that you are physically healthy, then you know what you experienced was most likely a panic attack. This blog will help you with how to handle a panic attack in the future. if you are unsure of what exactly a panic attack is then check out this blog post here. Below i will list 5 ways in which you can get a handle on your panic attacks.

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How To Talk To Your Child About Death

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How To Talk To Your Child About Death

There comes a time when every parents needs to explain death to their child. School age children will start to learn about death and what happens to people when they die. The comprehension of the finality of death comes later. Hopefully this does not happen in your family, but there may come a time when you are faced with the hardship of telling your child that a close family member has died. Below are some ways to help you talk to your child about death.

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What is CBT?

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What is CBT?

The primary type of therapy that I, a Hoboken psychotherapist, use is CBT. It is probably the most well known therapy out there nowadays. But if you do not have a psychology background and have never been to a therapist then you most likely have no idea what CBT is.

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How To Describe Your Mental Health Condition To A Loved One

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How To Describe Your Mental Health Condition To A Loved One

If you have ever experienced a mental health condition, have you ever felt like your loved ones were trying to give you advice on how to feel better? If it were that easy to just feel better by snapping your fingers then you probably would have done that by now. The best advise someone else could give you is to seek out a professional therapist if they notice that something is off and you are exhibiting symptoms of a mental health condition.

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6 Ways To Help Your Anxious Teen

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6 Ways To Help Your Anxious Teen

ANXIETY IN A TEEN CAN SHOW UP IN MANY DIFFERENT WAYS. ONE SYMPTOM OF ANXIETY YOU MAY SEE IS AGITATION. WHEN A TEEN FEELS OVERWHELMED OR STRESSED THEY MAY BECOME CLOSED OFF AND RESISTANT TO DISCUSSING THEIR FEELINGS.

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What Is Telehealth (Online Therapy) And Is It For Me?

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What Is Telehealth (Online Therapy) And Is It For Me?

Have you been seeing ads for telehealth therapy, telemedicine therapy, or online therapy and you wonder what it entails?

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15 Ways To Recognize Anxiety In Yourself and Others

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15 Ways To Recognize Anxiety In Yourself and Others

Are you able to tell if you, or someone else you know, is experiencing anxiety? Here are some ways you can recognize anxiety in yourself and others. Children, adolescents, young adults, older adults (and basically anyone) experiences anxiety sometimes.

Anxiety becomes a problem when you find yourself, or someone else, experiencing anxious symptoms nearly every day and it is negatively impacting your life. If you notice this about yourself or someone else then it is probably time to seek out professional help from a therapist or counselor.

Below lists 15 different ways to recognize anxiety in yourself or others. Just for easier purposes, I will be addressing "You" throughout. Even though I am addressing you, I still want you to keep in mind if anyone else in your life is experiencing these things. It could be your child, a friend, family member, etc. You can then seek help for your child or send this article on to someone you care for and want to see get helped.

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Courtney Glashow, LCSW quoted in Well + Good!

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Courtney Glashow, LCSW quoted in Well + Good!

Anchor Therapy's founder and psychotherapist, Courtney Glashow, LCSW, has been quoted in Well + Good! 

Courtney discusses that comparing yourself to others does not always have to be a negative thing. 

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Anchor Therapy is moving to Hoboken!

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Anchor Therapy is moving to Hoboken!

Excited to announce that Anchor Therapy is moving to downtown Hoboken March 1st!

We will be located at 223 Bloomfield Street, Suite 121 in Hoboken.

We will continue to specialize in helping children, adolescents, and young adults.

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What Is An Anxiety Attack & How Do I Prevent It From Happening Again?

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What Is An Anxiety Attack & How Do I Prevent It From Happening Again?

Do you feel you have anxiety and experience anxiety attacks? Are you too nervous to see a therapist?

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Courtney Glashow, LCSW quoted in Well + Good!

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Courtney Glashow, LCSW quoted in Well + Good!

Anchor Therapy's founder and psychotherapist, Courtney Glashow, LCSW, has been quoted in Well + Good! 


Courtney discusses the difference between a toxic friendship and a supportive, positive friendship. Courtney helps distinguish the signs of a toxic friendship and what to do once you realize you are in one.

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Anchor Therapy is honored to be voted BEST Wellness Center in Jersey City for 2017!!

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Anchor Therapy is honored to be voted BEST Wellness Center in Jersey City for 2017!!

Thank you to our community members for voting Anchor Therapy as the best wellness business in the Jersey City area for 2017 on Hoboken Girl! Out of all of the different types of wellness businesses out there, we are excited to see that psychotherapy services are recognized as an important aspect of the community.

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How Do I Help My Teen Feel Less Overwhelmed?

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How Do I Help My Teen Feel Less Overwhelmed?

When you are a parent of a teen or adolescent in high school, the end of the year can be a stressful time for multiple reasons. As a parent, you might notice that your child, or adolescent, is struggling to juggle college applications, school work, after school activities, and family time. This might be the perfect time to have your child seek out a teen therapist.

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How Do I Get My Teen To Talk To Me?

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How Do I Get My Teen To Talk To Me?

HOW DO I FIND OUT WHAT MY TEEN IS UP TO? WHY IS MY TEEN SLAMMING THE DOOR IN MY FACE? WHY DO THEY ALWAYS RESPOND, "I DON'T KNOW"? WHY DOES MY TEEN TEXT WITH FRIENDS AT ALL HOURS, BUT WILL NOT TALK TO ME?

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Courtney Glashow, LCSW quoted in Well + Good!

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Courtney Glashow, LCSW quoted in Well + Good!

Our founder and psychotherapist, Courtney Glashow, LCSW, has been quoted in Well + Good! 

Courtney discusses how to help a loved one who is coping with depression. 

Check out the article here!

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Is My Child Clinically Depressed?

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Is My Child Clinically Depressed?

HOW DO I KNOW IF MY CHILD HAS DEPRESSION OR IS JUST "MOODY"? DO I NEED TO BRING MY CHILD TO A THERAPIST? WHAT DOES IT MEAN IF MY CHILD IS CONSTANTLY AGITATED?

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Change a Habit in Just 21 Days!

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Change a Habit in Just 21 Days!

Is there a habit you've always wanted to change? Have you started to make this change, but then you don't follow through with it?

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10 Ways to Self Diagnose an Anxiety Disorder

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10 Ways to Self Diagnose an Anxiety Disorder

Do you find yourself feeling anxious, nervous, identify as "type A", or feel you have OCD? Do your friends, family, or others tell you that you are too "wound up"? Is it possible for a child to be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder?