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Courtney Glashow
Understanding the Psychology of Scapegoating in ...

Scapegoating means that you are blaming a person or group for something bad that has happened or for something that someone else has done. Scapegoating typically occurs to protect the image of a person or family. In a family dynamic, a person may be used as the scapegoat to protect a more favored member in the family. While it is common for one person to be used as the scapegoat, it can happen to multiple people.

Scapegoating can occur in different environments, such as work, but it is most prominent in unhealthy family dynamics. In this case, scapegoating then tends to start in childhood when a child is blamed for all of a family’s dysfunction and problems. A scapegoat bears the burden of taking on the mistakes of a family or team. 

When children are assigned this role at a young age, it can wreak havoc on their mental health. A scapegoated child may not believe that they are inherently good, worthy, or lovable. Instead, they hear insults regularly, experience constant bullying, and even abuse and neglect. This leads to a low self-esteem, decreased self-confidence, and negative self-talk. 

Understanding the Psychology of Scapegoating in Families
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Courtney Glashow
How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship

When you are in a healthy relationship, it naturally functions well. Of course, like any couple, you may have disagreements from time-to-time or there may be some hard times, but you band together no matter what. You are able to make major life decisions together, discuss problems once they occur, and genuinely enjoy spending time with one another.

On the other hand, you have toxic relationships. In a toxic relationship, the ‘norm’ is feeling drained and unhappy after spending time with your partner. This should be a major red flag that some things need to change.

You may still love your partner, but the relationship does not seem enjoyable. Maybe minor issues turn into full-blown arguments or you always seem to provoke one another. It may even get so severe that you dread spending time with your partner instead of getting excited to see them, like you were in the past.

Continue reading this blog to see if your relationship is toxic, and some guidance on how to navigate a toxic relationship.

How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship
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Courtney Glashow
Disney’s Encanto: How It Got Intergenerational ...

Disney has a way of exploring heavier life topics that can help children and the 2021 film Encanto is no exception. Movies like Inside Out and Soul also assist children in exploring heavier aspects of life, such as emotions, trauma, consciousness, and even death. Encanto joins the long list of children’s movies that have a deeper message.

Disney’s Encanto offers a multigenerational story about a grandmother and her family who have been endowed with magical gifts. The Madrigal family lives in a hidden village in Colombia. While each family member does their best to live up to their reputation and help others in the community, the facade slowly begins to crumble figuratively and literally in the house that all three generations share.
Not only do people love this movie because of its catchy soundtrack, including the famous song “We don’t talk about Bruno”, but people also love it because of its exploration of generational trauma.

Disney’s Encanto: How It Got Intergenerational Trauma Right
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Courtney Glashow
7 Ways to Let Go of Control Issues

Do you have a hard time going with the flow? Do you have to follow a schedule or routine at all times? Do you try to control other people in your life? If you are dealing with control issues, it is likely that you feel like you must exert power over your life, relationships, and general environment. In some cases, this exertion of power may extend to the life of other people.

Control can simply be defined as exerting influence or power over the environment, actions, and behaviors of yourself or another person. There are many reasons why you may feel like you need to be in control, such as insecurities or fear of the unpredictable. At times, your need for control may become overwhelming and tiring, causing chaos in your career, relationships, and your overall quality of life.

7 Ways to Let Go of Control Issues
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Courtney Glashow
8 Tips for Dealing With A Narcissist

While some people may be quick to throw the word “narcissist” around, it is important to remember that there is a distinction between someone being self-centered and unsympathetic, and someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Many people may have what doctors call narcissistic characteristics, such as feeling entitled or having a strong sense of self-importance. People who have narcissistic personality disorder may be challenging to deal with.

The first step to determine your dynamic with someone who you think is a narcissist is to know the difference between someone with narcissistic tendencies and someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

8 Tips for Dealing With A Narcissist

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How Do I Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking?

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How Do I Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking?

Year after year, public speaking ranks as one of the most common fears that people face. According to most studies, roughly 75% of people experience anxiety or nervousness when it comes to public speaking. The idea of speaking in front of people can be extremely triggering, causing a host of symptoms from sweaty palms to a shaky voice. These symptoms of public speaking anxiety can actually cause many people to avoid situations where they might have to speak up. However, rest assured that this fear does not have to be permanent. With the right tools and mindset, you can conquer your anxiety to become a confident, engaging public speaker!

In this blog post, we will dive into practical strategies that can help you overcome your fear of speaking in front of others. Whether you need help leading a meeting with a small group of people or your challenges occur when you face a large audience, you can transform your nervous energy into confidence. From getting your mind into the right headspace to knowing what you are going to say, we will cover everything you need to know to transmute public speaking from a source of stress to a skill you have mastered! 

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Empowering Businesses and Schools through Mental Health Talks

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Empowering Businesses and Schools through Mental Health Talks

In the fast-paced world of 2025, mental health is a major component of everyone’s success and well-being in professional and educational settings. At Anchor Therapy, our team of professional mental health counselors are passionate about creating healthy environments by delivering professional and academic mental health talks tailored to the unique needs of businesses and schools. These academic and professional talks aim to empower teams, inspire students, and prepare leaders with the right tools to construct resilience, enhance communication dynamics, and promote mental wellness.


By addressing popular topics, like stress management; emotional management; and fostering a creative, diverse team culture, the goal of our licensed psychotherapists is to spark meaningful discussions and actionable, long-lasting change. Continue reading this blog to discover how our expert-led talks can make a real impact on your organization or school community.

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Why Am I So Afraid To Drive A Car?

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Why Am I So Afraid To Drive A Car?

The fear of driving is way more common than you might think. Whether it stems from trauma from a past car accident, anxiety about controlling something as big as a vehicle, or the overwhelming nature of busy roads in the Hoboken and Jersey City area, this fear can be present for many reasons. Living in Hoboken and Jersey City, it may be very easy to rely on the ease and convenience of public transportation; however, this may hold you back from experiencing the true freedom and convenience that driving offers. For some, it is the mere thought of navigating highways; for other people, it is more so about managing the unpredictability of other drivers on the road. Whatever the root cause, overcoming this fear is not only possible but also a valuable step toward reclaiming your independence and confidence! For more information, check out our blog “The Ultimate Guide to Building Self-Confidence.” 

In this blog, we’ll explore practical strategies to help you tackle your fear of driving, one step at a time. From building trust in your skills to handling specific triggers, you will learn how to approach driving with a calmer, more focused mindset. Whether you are brand new to the road or looking to get back behind the wheel after years of avoidance, these tips will help you find your way to becoming a more confident, secure driver.

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Is Journaling Good For Your Mental Health?

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Is Journaling Good For Your Mental Health?

Journaling is a simple yet effective tool for enhancing your mental health. When you physically write down your thoughts and emotions, you can gain clarity and self-awareness so you can effectively reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. Journaling gives you an unfiltered expression of your feelings, and it can be a safe outlet for any intense emotions you may be experiencing. The practice of journaling is to make you more mindful, give you the space to reflect, and solve your problems. Over time, this leads to a greater sense of emotional regulation and well-being.


In addition to being a therapeutic force, journaling fosters creativity and a high sense of self-expression, giving you the space for personal growth and exploration. You can think of journaling as a tool for processing past events, setting future goals, and tracking progress over time. Many people who journal report that it helps them better understand their inner world, including their thoughts and triggers. By gaining this level of awareness, it can contribute to your coping skills and emotional resilience. Whether you journal daily or periodically, journaling is an accessible mental health tool and it can be an effective practice for maintaining your mental health.

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Understanding Miscarriage Trauma

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Understanding Miscarriage Trauma

Experiencing a miscarriage can be painful and it is often isolating. It can leave you and your partner to grapple with grief, confusion, and a profound sense of loss. While you may experience physical recovery in days or weeks following the miscarriage, the emotional and psychological effects of it can linger long after. The trauma of losing a pregnancy includes the sadness of an unrealized future along with feelings of guilt, shame, and uncertainty.


In this blog, we will dive into the complex emotions linked to miscarriage trauma, from immediate shock and grief to a long healing journey. We will get into the importance of acknowledging and processing miscarriage trauma while also explaining the significance of seeking professional support. A path toward emotional recovery is totally possible! Whether it is you or someone you know who has experienced a miscarriage, this blog will serve as a valuable tool filled with insights and coping skills to help you navigate this difficult experience.

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Career Coaching for Teachers

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Career Coaching for Teachers

Teaching is one of the most impactful careers you can have, but the profession also comes along with unique challenges and opportunities for growth. This profession is built on passion, dedication, and the desire to make a difference in the lives of children and teens. However, like any other career, it requires careful navigation. Career counseling for teachers gives you personalized guidance to help you clarify your goals and enhance your skills as an educator. Whether you are looking to advance in your current role or explore opportunities outside the classroom, career coaching can give you support and personalized strategies to succeed.

If you are a teacher who wants to thrive personally and professionally, this is the blog for you! Continue reading this blog to discover practical advice, inspiring insights, and actionable tips to help you achieve your goals and rediscover your passion for your work. From transitioning into a leadership role to working toward a better work-life balance, working with a career counselor at Anchor Therapy will leave you feeling empowered to unlock your true potential and create a fulfilling career. 

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Natural Anxiety Solutions That Actually Work

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Natural Anxiety Solutions That Actually Work

When stress arises in your life, anxiety is a natural response. However, anxiety crosses the line when it starts to become an overwhelming or constant force in your life, disrupting your daily life and welfare in the process. Modern medicine can offer a range of treatments. In fact, research has shown that at least 10% of prescriptions filled in the United States were for anxiety and depression medications. With that being said, many people are seeking a natural, holistic option to calm their mind. These natural solutions can address symptoms, but can also get to the root cause of your anxiety. 

In this blog, we will explore natural anxiety solutions that have worked for many people. Whether you are dealing with occasional nervousness or persistent worry, the relief techniques you will learn can be weaved into your lifestyle to create long-lasting change. Let us dive into the strategies that can help you feel more in control and grounded!

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Career Coaching for Real Estate Agents in Hoboken & Jersey City

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Career Coaching for Real Estate Agents in Hoboken & Jersey City

The real estate markets in Hoboken and Jersey City are very unique given that both are fast-paced cities booming with new opportunities day after day. For real estate agents in this competitive market, standing out from other experts requires more than just hard work- you need to have a sharp strategy and a clear vision for what success is and what success means to you. Career coaching for Hoboken and Jersey City real estate agents can help you unlock your full potential. From understanding hyper-local market trends to creating connections with people in your community, the right career coach at Anchor Therapy will help you build your self-confidence so you can achieve your goals!


Whether you are a new agent or an expert in your professional field, career coaching tailored to your unique needs gives you a specialized blueprint for personal and professional success. Executive career coaches with expertise in the Hoboken and Jersey City markets understand the special challenges and opportunities that these areas offer. Career counseling can help you build your brand while also staying ahead on emerging trends in the real estate market. With the guidance of a career counselor, you can maximize your strengths and overcome obstacles. If you are ready to transform your career in one of New Jersey’s hottest real estate markets, look no further than career coaching at Anchor Therapy!

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All About Career Coaching for CEOs

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All About Career Coaching for CEOs

In the high-stakes world of being a Chief Executive Officer (CEO), you operate from a place of leadership with great internal and external pressure and immense responsibility. You have to balance many priorities- setting visionary goals, making important decisions, steering your company towards sustainable success, and so on. As a CEO, you help many people on a daily basis, but who helps you? This is where working with a career coach at Anchor Therapy can come into play. Career coaching is a transformational tool for both personal and professional success so you can refine your leadership abilities while also empowering you to fully embrace the complexity of your roles. Contrary to popular belief, career coaching is not going to teach you how to run a business. Instead, career counseling is a tool to help you unlock your true potential and stay ahead in a corporate environment that is always changing.

Society often views CEOs as the embodiment of true success, but that does not mean that CEOs do not face their own share of challenges. From generating innovation to managing team dynamics, being a CEO is not easy work. Therefore, career coaching for CEOs gives you the space to reflect, prepare, and improve their vision for the future. It can help you create and exercise the skills needed to address hardships from a place of confidence where you can transform difficulties into opportunities.

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What is Perinatal Psychotherapy?

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What is Perinatal Psychotherapy?

Perinatal psychotherapy is a form of mental health counseling designed to help women during the perinatal period, including pregnancy, childbirth, and the postpartum phase. This type of therapy focuses on addressing the various emotional and mental health challenges that can arise during this time, from anxiety and depression to the life transition of parenthood. The primary goal is to help women navigate the complex emotional and psychological changes that come along with being a parent. Not only are you managing the physical and emotional demands of pregnancy, but you are also planning for the major life change that comes along with the birth of a child.


Perinatal therapy is especially important because many women experience increased vulnerability during the perinatal period. Of course, pregnancy and childbirth comes along with physical demands, but there is also potential for emotional difficulties, such as postpartum depression or anxiety. A perinatal therapist at Anchor Therapy can give you a safe and supportive space to explore your emotions, process past trauma, and successfully manage the stress of transitioning from pregnancy to parenthood. Perinatal counseling can also benefit women experiencing fears about pregnancy or childbirth, those with mental health disorders, and/or parents struggling with the emotional demands of having a newborn.